my response to kristen (wtih some editorial revision):
“yeah i guess i could have clarified myself better… the fact that she talks about enjoying sex is what makes her a slut in some people’s eyes… it’s generally assumed that the man is the one pursuing sex, and women are supposed to pretend that they don’t want it. men are the ones who are allowed to openly pursue sex… but if a woman is honest and upfront, she becomes an instant sex maniac, apparently. i guess i was just trying to figure out what it is about this girl that has convinced so many people that she is a “slut”. the only “evidence” that has been presented to me is that she 1) talks openly about being a sexual person, very honestly and without a hidden agenda 2)in her last relationship, she liked having sex on a regular basis, and was probably pretty excitable. neither of which, in my eyes, make her a slut… it just makes her honest and self-aware, i.e. she knows what she wants and says so. this doesn’t mean she doesn’t have standards and boundaries, though… but these other people who keep coming up to me and telling me that i “could totally have sex with her” seemed to have jumped to the conclusion from the two things i just told you that camille will jump anything with a dick if it looks at her twice.
i hope i managed to explain my thought process a little better… it’s definitely hard to talk about female sexuality when you yourself don’t happen to be female….”
i guess a lot of the issue is your definition of a “slut”. personally, i’d say that my definition of “slut” is someone who has no discretion about who they sleep with, and the only attraction is sexual, and on top of that is a person who has no loyalty to any of those people. other qualifying factors would be general lack of intelligence and personality - basically someone whose only function seems to be sex. the problem with this definition, of course, is that it is very subjective to my own personal point of view - i don’t actually know what is going on in the mind of the “slut” i just described, and after all, what’s so bad about sex?
